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August 17, 2022

 

Do siblings have a closer bond based on how far apart in age they are?

A smaller age gap allows children to grow closer while they are young and often leads to the closest relationship when siblings are adults. The closer children are in age, the more likely they are to bond when they are young. Although there is a chance of rivalry between siblings, they are still more likely to become closer than siblings further apart and remain close in adulthood. My brother and I are 18 months apart, and I agree that being closer in age makes siblings closer as they grow older. He is someone that I can confide in, and I think we wouldn’t be able to talk to each other about things like that if we were further apart in age. That, along with research linked below, shows that siblings do have a closer bond based on how far apart they are in age.

Sources

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-raise-happy-cooperative-child/202104/age-gap-when-have-second-child/


My Brother

Fernando Peña Lopez is my one and only brother. He is the older one since he was born first. He is twenty years old. Even though he is 3 years older than me we still get along. Our relationship isn’t perfect because we have been thru ups and downs but we always stick together. But I mean no relationship is perfect because everyone will have their ups and downs at some point in their life’s .Ever since we were small my brother and I would go to places together, we wouldn’t go alone. I’ll say that we are like “uña y mugre” because we have never and will never separate. I’ll say that our brother relationship is really strong because we always help each other out. We both learned how to to play soccer together when my dad used to teach us. What makes our relationship strong is that we like to do the same things and we trust each other a lot. An example that proves that our relationship is really strong is when he went to live to Mexico. Even though we couldn’t talk in person we would always stay in contact through the phone. We would tell each other how our day was and we would talk about other things as well. He has given me a lot of advice because he wants the best for me just like I do for him. Now that he came back our relationship has gotten more stronger. We don’t argue like we used to when we were smaller. I wouldn’t ask for a different brother because Nando is the best brother I’ll ever have. I hope that our relationship never changes but I know that if we keep doing what we have been doing our relationship will stay strong forever.


When I met my mom and brother for the first time

 


The Impacts of a Twin

Having a twin seems like something very beneficial. From the time you’re born you have an ally, someone to support and influence the decisions you make. Yet are all of these preconceived ideas really accurate? How does having a twin influence someone’s life, and are the effects positive or negative?  

There are two types of twins identical and fraternal. Identical twins come from the same fertilized egg which splits shortly after conception forming two separate embryos, while fraternal twins come from the fertilization of two eggs using two sperm. Fraternal twins and identical twins are used in many different scientific studies and the data is most commonly analyzed and compared to one another. The gender of twin is also taken into account. For example fraternal twins that are male and female are often compared to fraternal twins that are the same gender.

A study done by Edinburgh University tested over 800 sets of identical and non-identical twins to see if environment or genes impacted someone’s personality more. The research concluded that genes play a larger role in personality development than environmental factors. The researchers determined this by analyzing how the twins interacted and by assessing their individual personality traits. They determined that “identical twins were twice as likely as non-identical twins to share the same personality traits, suggesting that their DNA was having the greatest impact.”

While genes seem to have a larger effect on a person’s development than their twin, researchers from the University of Washington did a study to see if having a twin impacted someone’s. Surprisingly, twins psychological responses to one another is similar to that of a married couple triggering a “twin protection effect.” Their current study explored how being a twin might impact one’s survival. The found that up until the age of 65, twins were more likely to survive then the general population. They also found discrepancies when comparing fraternal twins to identical twins. Identical twins are more likely to survive than fraternal twins, and male identical twins seem to be the most protective of each other. This shows that the twin relationship provides support in a tangible and emotional form, proving that twins ultimately do impact each other lives in a very large way. 


The Power of Siblings

How would I be if I had different siblings?

I know that siblings shape a person. Whether you are an only child, have one older sibling, three younger siblings, or are the middle child of five, the effects of having siblings runs deep. In a podcast by NPR, Jeffrey Kluger, author of the book The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us, discusses current scientific research about the role siblings play on our behavior.

One of the biggest areas where we see the effects of siblings is in conflict. Klugger pointed out “one of the most profound effects siblings have on you is that area of conflict resolution skills, that area of relationship formation and maintenance.” When resolving a conflict between siblings, you have to learn to share, compromise, and react when you do or don’t get your way. This is a skill you take from your toddler years throughout your whole life. According to an article by U.S. News, siblings may also buffer stress and inspire us towards good or bad behavior.

Not only do siblings in general have an effect, but specifically order, gender, and number also play a role in development. In an article by Psychology Today, it states “Birth order has a powerful impact upon children’s emotions, behavior and personality development. By a twist of fate a child is born into a particular spot in the family, and from this position, he will have unique emotional experiences. Each spot in the order has it’s advantages and challenges.” For example, many firstborns experience lots of love and attention, leading to high self-confidence but also high expectations from first-time parents. Children born second have the advantage of calmer, more experienced parents and learning from someone older, but may be rushing to keep up with their older sibling.

Middle children often get the reputation of being left out, since the older and younger kids are doing things for the first or last time of the family. However, they benefit from having the experience of having an older and a younger sibling and learning how to deal with peers of all age ranges through the differences of their siblings. Younger siblings are usually more adventurous, outgoing, and creative, but can also be more rebellious and take advantage of parents who have loosened up with experience. Finally, only children have the reputation of to be high-maintenance, perfectionists, and spoiled, since they never learned how to share. However, they can also be more self-motivated and organized.

Siblings have a profound effect on people’s lives. We are shaped by our family experiences and the way we grow up translates into our later years. How have your siblings had an effect on you? How would you be if you had different siblings— order, gender, or number?

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