Many parents spoil their children even though there is research on the negative effects that follow. Parents want to do as much for their kids, and make sure their kids have the best life they can. What parents don’t understand is that in the long run they are actually harming their kids. When parents spoil their kids the kids end up always relying on others to take care of them, and are helpless in many situations. They also have the highest rates of low self esteem, according to It is hard for many parents to let their kids be independent and to not spoil them but it will pay off.

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October 31, 2016 3:12 am

Dear Trip,
I am interested in your post because you bring up a topic that is very true here in the U.S. I strongly agree with what you said. I have seen this a lot especially where I’m from.
One thing you said that stood out to me is, “When parents spoil their kids the kids end up always relying on others to take care of them, and are helpless in many situations.” I think this is very true because some parents are so focused on giving their children what they never had that they don’t realize that they are going far too overboard. They get their children used to having things handed to them without having to do anything to receive it and in the future they will think that life is going to be handed to them like it has been so far to them. That means that when they become adults they will be dependent on their parents who gave them everything because they thought they were doing good in spoiling their children.
Your post reminds me of something that is happening to older cousin’s son. She is constantly buying him everything he wants and majority of it he doesn’t need or even used. My aunt, her mother, tried telling her that she isn’t doing good by spoiling him too much but she simply said she is giving him the life she wished she had for herself. Her son throws tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants which also because of that he gets what he wants.
Thanks for your project. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because I can relate to what you wrote. I would like to see more posts about real world problems that happen.

October 13, 2016 6:13 pm

I have a problem with that in my own home. Even though my parents do not spoil us.

October 13, 2016 5:22 pm

Hello Genevieve,
I found your post very interesting and your side on spoiling interesting as well. I think that when children are spoiled you can tell and it can be very frustrating. Parents spoil kids because they feel that in order to be somewhat in their life they have to spoil them. But I also think that when children are spoiled by the parents they see that their parents are hardworking, so the children will want to work hard as well. This topic is something that is important and something that needs to be discussed. Good job on the post!

October 13, 2016 4:04 pm

Hello Genevieve,
I totally agree with what you said. I think that, though it may be tough to tell your kids “no” when they are young, it will make their entire life afterwards much, much easier for them. It will teach them that they arent entitled and that they have to work to achieve things and sets them up for a life of hard work and achievement.
Good work!
Andrew Himebaugh

October 13, 2016 2:08 pm

I think that this topic has a lot to talk about. I agree that spoiling a child to much can cause them to rely on others. But, it is hard to say that it is the case for all children. Sometimes, having a lot as a child could inspire them to continue working hard to keep that quality of life. But, being spoon fed will not teach children to be independent. It’s a fine line which everyone has to draw for their own family. What do you think the ideal line is for you?

October 13, 2016 3:35 am

I completely agree with you spoiled kids always lose in the end anyways. Sure, the kids may behave better for the immediate future but eventually they will find that the real world does not give anything away. Letting your kids run free and figure things out for themselves can compete with parental protective impulses but independence usually ends up with better results.

October 12, 2016 9:28 pm

I do think that your post is very interesting and i do think that many kids that are spoiled have a negative outcome. But I do think that there are some kids in the world that do realize that not everything is a given but you have to work for it. I do see your point of how many kids are very spoiled. I have many friends whose parents are very successful and I do see that sometimes. I feel it just depends on what the kid is exposed to in his lifetime.

October 12, 2016 7:27 pm

Great post, I agree with all that you said. Being spoiled can cause the child to be more dependent on others when they grow up. I have seen this first hand with some friends that I have. I think the best way to control this is to spoil but not spoil your kids. What I mean by that is, of course you want to give your kid things they want but just don’t give them every single thing they ask for. One of my friends has two doctors as parents but yet they make her work and pay for what she wants, she doesn’t get it handed to her, which is good. Being spoiled can be bad, but I believe it could also be good because you are showing the kid how awesome giving is.

October 12, 2016 4:25 pm

I agree with you on that spoiling kids can actually backfire on them later, but I think it is okay to spoil them sometimes. Spoiling a kid with a brand new Mercedes or buying them everything they want isn’t the best idea. However, it is a good idea to spoil your kids sometimes. Do you think that spoiling a kid sometimes is a good or bad idea?

October 12, 2016 4:18 pm

I agree with your post a lot and it is also very good. It makes sense that spoiled children have low self esteem, because there are many people that you can tell their parents spoiled them. My siblings always teased me about being spoiled because I’m the baby of the family but my parents did a good job of letting me be independent and not that spoiled.

October 12, 2016 4:13 pm

Hello Genevieve,
I found your post to be extremely interesting. I do think some kids are spoiled and it can have a negative outcome. I don’t think that all “spoiled” kids rely on others for the rest of their lives. I think it depends on how the parents parent their children. Some parents make sure their children know that they have to work for things in their life. Some kids who seem to be spoiled do chores around the house for a reward. I think at the end of the day the children who are spoiled will realize that they were lucky growing up and now it is time to work for what they want or need.
Great Post!

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