April 22, 2019
Kayla J, Juan M, & America D
What’s Your Opinion on Domestic Violence?
Dear Victims and Survivors,
We chose to write to the you because on a average, nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by intimate partner in the United States(project sanctuary.org). We want to write to victims to show you, you are not alone. And to survivors because you have gone through these experiences and can help current victim and prevent future victims. We hope that in the future Domestic Violence can fully stop and all people can speak out against it.
The issue that we want to bring to your attention is domestic violence. In an article it states “Dating abuse is a pattern of abusive behaviors that are used to exert power and control over a dating partner. Dating abuse can be physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional and also includes stalking. It can happen in person or electronically and can also happen between a person and their former dating partner”(Domestic violence.org) This is saying that when they are dating a abusive person there will always be physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional and also includes stalking in the relationship. In a website called psychcentral.com which is a website where a doctor talks about domestic violence it can be trusted because the doctor is a expert. It talked about the people that get harmed it said “Domestic violence — also known as domestic abuse, intimate partner violence or abuse may start when one partner feels the need to control and dominate the other. Abusers may feel this need to control their partner because of low self-esteem, extreme jealousy, difficulties in regulating anger and other strong emotions, or when they feel inferior to the other partner in education and socioeconomic background”(Toby D. Goldsmith, MD). This is saying that when your partner starts feeling low self-esteem and they start to control the partner. I think that’s not healthy for both of them because that will do too much damage to their relationship.The level of oppression that domestic violence show is internalized oppression because they are not doing anything and letting the situation continue, children get affected by that. If they see that there one of their parents is hitting the other parent the child will grow up believing that hitting their partner is okay to do and they will do it to their spouse in the future.
There have been movements in the past to try to change and prevent domestic violence. An example is the National Domestic Violence hotline which is a direct service. The hotline is used to help those who are seeking help around the issue of domestic violence. They also, answer calls and text from those seeking help “Over the last 20 years, The Hotline and loveisrespect have answered more than 4 million calls, chats and texts from people seeking help around issues of domestic violence” (The National Domestic Violence Hotline). This quote proves that there is people out there and organizations willing to help stop domestic violence and 4 million calls is absurd it is a lot of calls so this is a move which is successful and it is a national move and has great impact. Another example is on Dosomething.org they talked about a movement where teens put flash tattoos on their wrist and they were 40,399 people who participated “Our members shared our Spot the Signs guide and free 1 in 3 of Us metallic tattoos with friends to teach them how to spot red flags for dating abuse”(Dosomething.org). This statement shows that organizations are educating people so they can spot red flags this way they can do something about it or the people who are going through it might not see it but this way they can this was an example of public art and community organizing. Dosomething.org is a very successful organization which targets youth to stand up for what’s right and they are a non profit organization so they can be trusted. Another, organization that helps victims of domestic violence is A Safe Place this is a crisis shelter “Our Emergency Shelter Program ensures that each client receives a safe home environment in which to heal”(Asafeplace.org). This gives hope to the people who think domestic violence is insuperable and a way to get away from the abuse. As well, it is a safe place to heal and to think this can be very helpful. This organization is very successful for what they are doing because they are helping the victims.
Our plan is to sell snacks on Thursday and raise money so we can donate that money to a domestic violence organization and we will give out flyers with the snacks that give out information on domestic violence and how to put a stop to it. To go around to middle school advisories and the after school program to let them know about domestic violence. They will also be doing surveys and we have slide shows prepared for them to watch As well,on how to spot red flags. We believe this will be effective because we will raise both money and awareness and empower our community to put a stop to this and wake those people up who are disregarding this issue. We will be posting on our instagram @stop_domesticviolence2 this will be a different way to raise awareness and movements and different actions we can make so this issue is no longer acknowledge. Help us stand for what is right by using the #StopDomesticViolence.
“1 In 3 of Us: Flash Tattoos.” DoSomething.org, DoSomething.org,
This article was about the types of reactions and emotions that happen when the person is going through domestic violence. How a group of teeangers stood up and activated for domestic violence victims and survivors. This source is credible because its .org and they are not profiting from it.
“24 HOUR CRISIS SHELTER | A SAFE PLACE | COMPREHENSIVE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SERVICES | OAKLAND, CA.” A Safe Place , A Safe Place , 2017,
This Crisis program is talking about what they provide like their emergency shelter. emergency transport etc. This source is reliable because they’re website is a .org and they are a non profit organization that help victims get out of their situation. A strength is they are providing many services besides the one I listed and for free and this can be very helpful because people may not have money for it. As well , they tell you what you need to plan ahead.
Goldsmith, Toby D. “What Causes Domestic Violence?” Psych Central, 8 Oct. 2018,
This article was about domestic violence and and that when the male starts feels self esteem they start feeling that they have that power to control but that only affects both people. This source is credible because the author of this website is a doctor and has lots of knowledge on information about domestic violence.
“Impact Report | National Domestic Violence Hotline.” The National Domestic Violence Hotline, The National Domestic Violence Hotline , 2017,
This Action report by the national domestic hotline tells us statistics of how many call they answered etc. This source is credible because they are a non-profit organization and the donations they receive are to help victims of domestic violence. A strength is that it has the year that the report it was taken on and it gives us statistics. A weakness is that it doesn’t say where they got this data from.
Kassoy, Ben. “1 In 3 of Us: Flash Tattoos.” DoSomething.org, Dosomething.org, 2018, www.dosomething.org/us/campaigns/1-3-us-flash-tattoos/community.
This campaign is telling us about what they did to spread awareness and what they are doing about it. This was very effective because over 40,000 teens participated. As well, this website is credible because they are a organization that works with the youth and are always doing something and it is a non profit organization so they can be trusted.
“Some Statistics about Domestic Violence- . Project Sanctuary . 2019.” Project Sanctuary – Mendocino County, CA 2019, Project Sanctuary , 2019, www.projectsanctuary.org/dv/some-statistics-about-domestic-violence/ .
This source is credible because it is from a nonprofit organization and helps with not just only domestic violence but also helps with sexual assault.
Dear Kayla J, Juan M, & America,
I really enjoyed reading your post regarding the topic of domestic violence. Your post is very detailed and organized. I do agree that domestic violence is an issue that needs awareness, in our society. In addition, it is important for victims to have a voice in our society, to receive the support that they need. A sentence that caught my attention from reading your post is “when attention is brought on the issue, the silence that victims face will be broken because that’s when they will feel safe enough to speak up”. This quote stood out to me because when this issue receives attention, the victims will feel comfortable to speak up for themselves and it will become easier for them to express their emotions and feelings. I also think it’s important for schools to educate children and teenagers about domestic violence, so they can become aware of the issue and to learn about preventing it from happening.
Check out my blog on child marriage: http://childmarriage.family.blog. Within child marriages, domestic abuse is very prevalent. Child marriage puts not only the brides at risk of violence, but also their daughters or sons. They often face abuse throughout their lives, and child brides are most likely to believe that a man is justified in beating his wife.
Dear Kayla, Juan and America>,
I am intrigued by your post because I too have a blog on this topic. https://domesticviolenceactivism.wordpress.com/
One thing you said that stands out for me is: “ If they see that there one of their parents is hitting the other parent the child will grow up believing that hitting their partner is okay to do and they will do it to their spouse in the future.” I think this is intelligent because it shows the effect of abuse on a child. When children grow up society effects how they view the world and if the world they view involves abuse then they are more likely to become abusers.
Thanks for your project. I look forward to seeing what you write next because you are clearly very educated on the topic. You have done your research. There can never be enough recognition for domestic abuse. Keep up the great work!
Hi Kayla, Juan, and America,
Thank you for bringing focus to this topic of domestic violence, as it needs to be recognized as a real issue today. It is scary how normalized abuse is in today’s culture. By bringing awareness to different organizations that can help and educating people on spotting read flags, we are starting the conversation that needs to be had out in the open rather than behind closed doors.
Multiple times in your references, you mentioned a doctor or an organization as credible resourced for your readers. I would research the background for credentials and verification in order assure your readers the information you have is accurate. Your efforts to start these conversations in school is really admirable.
Kayla J, Juan M, & America D, I was so moved by your piece on Ending Domestic Violence. Its an issue that I think we all know is very difficult to erraticate. However, I know there are steps we can take to prevent or end it. I think you should include some of these in your writing. You’ve addressed the issue very well with lots of information, but I’m sure the victims of domestic violence would also like to hear some possible solutions. One of my ideas would be to set up an anonymous hotline of some sort where victims can speak to a professional in private. People are usually held up in domestically violent relationships because they feel like they aren’t good enough or they feel trapped. This concept would be similar to a suicide prevention hotline. It would be great to include a couple ideas in your writing! I love the concept and I can’t emphasize how important I think it is. Can’t wait to hear more.
Dear Kayla, Juan and America,
I am moved by your letter, “Say No to Domestic Violence,” because it is a topic that is not really talked about with youth. Knowing that there are young people that care about this issue makes me hopeful that future generations can have the power to end this issue. Learning about this topic at an early age can help prevent domestic violence in the future. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by intimate partner in the United States” I think this is horrifying because that means that violence is just so prevalent that it is really scary. For you all to understand that this is a great issue is a great step to start educating those around you about it. Also the sentence that I agreed with was: “If they see that there one of their parents is hitting the other parent the child will grow up believing that hitting their partner is okay to do and they will do it to their spouse in the future.” This stood out for me because environment can have a great impact on our development and it can also be a factor on how we will act as adults. One reason I say this is because living in a violent environment can lead to what you mentioned, thinking that this is how problems are solved. Another reason I agree with you is because this behavior is very present in all types of relationships and families, unfortunately violence does not discriminate gender, sex orientation, or race. This is a type of behavior that is observed by little ones and older children as well and it is something that can be normalized in their environment, which can lead to more violence. Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because it is inspiring to see that the youth of today are becoming informed and motivated to spread awareness of an issue. I would love to see your thoughts on the me too movement and gun control, since they are both about very present violent topics. I hope you all stay motivated to make a difference in this world!
Dear Kayla, Juan, & America,
Dear Kayla, Juan and America,
I am optimistic about your post “Say No to Domestic Violence” because you guys really gave a clear explanation of what Domestic Violence is. A sentence that stood out to me was “Domestic violence- also known as domestic abuse, intimate partner violence or abuse may start when one partner feels the need to control and dominate the other”. This stood out to me because you guys are really providing a concrete example of where Domestic Violence begins to become evident in partners. Also, another sentence that stood out to me was “Dating abuse can be physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional also includes stalking in a relationship”. This stood out to me because I never knew all these categories led to an area in domestic violence. Your post reminded me of one of my past relationships at the moment I never looked at it as toxic relationship but reading through your research really explains it. Your post I feel can go and support many people and shed the light on a dark topic. Thank you for sharing and trying to make a positive change where change is necessary.