Psychology on the aftermath of betrayal by Adalia

September 27, 2021


Psychology on the aftermath of betrayal

People everywhere experience the harshness of betrayal. Whether it was when a friend hung out with someone else, a boss not giving a promotion he promised, or a spouse’s infidelity. These events can have a horrible effect on a person’s mindset causing them to question their worth or rather if it’s possible to ever trust again.

Forgetting the person that did the betrayal, taking a look at the confusing and conflicting emotions present in the victims’ psyche can help find a way for them to recover from such emotional blows. When it comes to those feelings, something as serious as depression could occur and cause the victim to become a danger to themselves and others. This is why intimate betrayal in multiple forms is always a good reason to see someone such as a therapist when these events happen.

The Article “Types of Intimate Betrayal” from Psychology Today by Steven Stoney, Ph.D., discusses the many forms of betrayal. It states that” Behaviors that intentionally hurt include more emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and domestic violence” illustrating the disappointing ways people are harmed by others (Stoney). Continuing from emotional abuse, romantic betrayal is mortifying. The realization of a lover’s disloyalty is not only mentally impactful but also heartbreaking, “Discovering a partner’s affair can be devastating because it strikes at so many aspects of one’s identity” indicating how easy it is to lose self-esteem (Coleman). Relationships are built on trust and vulnerability. They are made on the risk of putting faith in one another to work together and protect each other. “…because our relationships are built upon the fragile agreement that those whom we care most deeply will behave, in a large part, as they have always behaved (Coleman). The fear of distrust can lead to huge degrees of traumatization because everything that was ever known seems to be proven, causing one to question their character and surroundings.

Altogether, sentiments regarding the concept of deception can leave lasting effects on a person’s emotional stability leading to the paranoia of recurring crossing from others.


Coleman, Joshua. “Surviving Betrayal.” Greater Good,

Stosny, Steven. “Types of Intimate Betrayal.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers,