On a daily basis, people struggle with their insecurities and imperfections. People commit mistakes through any action causing them to feel less of themselves. Many feel like they must obtain perfection to be the best version of themselves. But in reality, is perfection even possible? Everyone has their own definition of being ‘perfect.’ They could think being a good athlete, sister,student,daughter,friend is what will make them perfect but in someone else’s point of view they could see perfection differently.
Does the desire of achieving perfection cause a positive or negative effect on one’s mindset? Harriet states that “striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing” (Civitella). Having the mindset to excel aids people in improving themselves on the daily and being understandable with themselves when they commit mistakes. A person who has the mentality to want to be perfect all the time will constantly put themselves down when they make mistakes. In most cases people have the urge to be perfect so others can see one’s perfection. A perfectionist mindset is “exceedingly concerned about others’ evaluation of them, hardly ever satisfied with their performance, and blame themselves for when things go wrong even when they are not directly involved or responsible” showing how a perfectionist only achieves happiness through the validation of others and does not put their own feelings and thoughts first (Durlofsky).
It could be mistaken that perfection is equal to excellence but that’s not quite the case because “perfectionism has more to do with how things appear to others and whether they think they’re done right. Excellence is about having a reason and a purpose for what you’re doing and being driven by that purpose to achieve results that will ultimately make you succeed” (Civitella). Therefore excellence causes one to excel more than wanting to be perfect.
Although many try to achieve perfection, it is important to be content with oneself. There is always room for improvement and there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself whether it be emotionally, physically, or even financially. Motivation for self improvement should come from wanting to excel and not from the idea of wanting to achieve perfection.
Civitella, Angela. “Council Post: Perfection or Excellence? One Is Myth, and One Is Reality.”
Forbes, Forbes Magazine, 24 Oct. 2018, https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/10/24/perfection-or-excellence-one-is-myth-and-one-is-reality/?sh=5240df485883.
Durlofsky, Paula. “Expectations vs. Reality: How to Let Go of Perfectionism.” Main Line Today,
1 Dec. 2019, https://mainlinetoday.com/life-style/health/expectations-vs-reality-how-to-let-go-of-perfectionism/.