• The Upstander Project was a project were we choose a topic we wanted to talk about and try to create a change for. My project was about domestic violence which is a topic I am passionate about and is something

  • April 22, 2019

    Kayla J, Juan M, & America D

    What’s Your Opinion on Domestic Violence?

    Dear Victims and Survivors,

    We chose to write to the you because on a average, nearly 20 people per minute a

    • Dear Kayla, Juan and America,
      I am optimistic about your post “Say No to Domestic Violence” because you guys really gave a clear explanation of what Domestic Violence is. A sentence that stood out to me was “Domestic violence- also known as domestic abuse, intimate partner violence or abuse may start when one partner feels the need to control and dominate the other”. This stood out to me because you guys are really providing a concrete example of where Domestic Violence begins to become evident in partners. Also, another sentence that stood out to me was “Dating abuse can be physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional also includes stalking in a relationship”. This stood out to me because I never knew all these categories led to an area in domestic violence. Your post reminded me of one of my past relationships at the moment I never looked at it as toxic relationship but reading through your research really explains it. Your post I feel can go and support many people and shed the light on a dark topic. Thank you for sharing and trying to make a positive change where change is necessary.

    • Dear Kayla, Juan, & America,

      You’re post broaden my knowledge on domestic violence, when I thought about domestic violence the first image that would come into mind would be physical and verbal abuse. I learned from your post that, “ Dating abuse can be physical, sexual, psychological, or emotional, and includes stalking.” I was surprised when I read this because I didn’t consider stalking online as a form of dating abuse, but reading more about it I can see as to why it would be considered as a form of dating abuse. Another sentence that stood out to me was the amount of people that are victims of physical violence in the United States alone, it is surprising how many people go through an abusive relationship. Your post made me realize that the topic of domestic violence should be talked about more, and it makes me happy that at your age you are thinking of different ideas to spread information on domestic violence, and the support that the domestic violence victims are given. Thank you for sharing this useful information and for wanting go make a change for the community.

    • Dear Kayla, Juan and America,
      I am moved by your letter, “Say No to Domestic Violence,” because it is a topic that is not really talked about with youth. Knowing that there are young people that care about this issue makes me hopeful that future generations can have the power to end this issue. Learning about this topic at an early age can help prevent domestic violence in the future. One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by intimate partner in the United States” I think this is horrifying because that means that violence is just so prevalent that it is really scary. For you all to understand that this is a great issue is a great step to start educating those around you about it. Also the sentence that I agreed with was: “If they see that there one of their parents is hitting the other parent the child will grow up believing that hitting their partner is okay to do and they will do it to their spouse in the future.” This stood out for me because environment can have a great impact on our development and it can also be a factor on how we will act as adults. One reason I say this is because living in a violent environment can lead to what you mentioned, thinking that this is how problems are solved. Another reason I agree with you is because this behavior is very present in all types of relationships and families, unfortunately violence does not discriminate gender, sex orientation, or race. This is a type of behavior that is observed by little ones and older children as well and it is something that can be normalized in their environment, which can lead to more violence. Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because it is inspiring to see that the youth of today are becoming informed and motivated to spread awareness of an issue. I would love to see your thoughts on the me too movement and gun control, since they are both about very present violent topics. I hope you all stay motivated to make a difference in this world!

    • Kayla J, Juan M, & America D, I was so moved by your piece on Ending Domestic Violence. Its an issue that I think we all know is very difficult to erraticate. However, I know there are steps we can take to prevent or end it. I think you should include some of these in your writing. You’ve addressed the issue very well with lots of information, but I’m sure the victims of domestic violence would also like to hear some possible solutions. One of my ideas would be to set up an anonymous hotline of some sort where victims can speak to a professional in private. People are usually held up in domestically violent relationships because they feel like they aren’t good enough or they feel trapped. This concept would be similar to a suicide prevention hotline. It would be great to include a couple ideas in your writing! I love the concept and I can’t emphasize how important I think it is. Can’t wait to hear more.

    • Hi Kayla, Juan, and America,
      Thank you for bringing focus to this topic of domestic violence, as it needs to be recognized as a real issue today. It is scary how normalized abuse is in today’s culture. By bringing awareness to different organizations that can help and educating people on spotting read flags, we are starting the conversation that needs to be had out in the open rather than behind closed doors.
      Multiple times in your references, you mentioned a doctor or an organization as credible resourced for your readers. I would research the background for credentials and verification in order assure your readers the information you have is accurate. Your efforts to start these conversations in school is really admirable.
      – Oakley

    • Dear Kayla, Juan and America>,

      I am intrigued by your post because I too have a blog on this topic. https://domesticviolenceactivism.wordpress.com/

      One thing you said that stands out for me is: “ If they see that there one of their parents is hitting the other parent the child will grow up believing that hitting their partner is okay to do and they will do it to their spouse in the future.” I think this is intelligent because it shows the effect of abuse on a child. When children grow up society effects how they view the world and if the world they view involves abuse then they are more likely to become abusers.

      Thanks for your project. I look forward to seeing what you write next because you are clearly very educated on the topic. You have done your research. There can never be enough recognition for domestic abuse. Keep up the great work!

    • Dear Kayla J, Juan M, & America,

      I really enjoyed reading your post regarding the topic of domestic violence. Your post is very detailed and organized. I do agree that domestic violence is an issue that needs awareness, in our society. In addition, it is important for victims to have a voice in our society, to receive the support that they need. A sentence that caught my attention from reading your post is “when attention is brought on the issue, the silence that victims face will be broken because that’s when they will feel safe enough to speak up”. This quote stood out to me because when this issue receives attention, the victims will feel comfortable to speak up for themselves and it will become easier for them to express their emotions and feelings. I also think it’s important for schools to educate children and teenagers about domestic violence, so they can become aware of the issue and to learn about preventing it from happening.

      Check out my blog on child marriage: http://childmarriage.family.blog. Within child marriages, domestic abuse is very prevalent. Child marriage puts not only the brides at risk of violence, but also their daughters or sons. They often face abuse throughout their lives, and child brides are most likely to believe that a man is justified in beating his wife.

  • Dear Yan, I want to thank you for the positive feedback. I agree with what you said “I think that when people look to the issue of gentrification positively, they tend to focus on “oh look all the increased rent made the neighborhood nicer” and not “the people who made that community unique cannot afford to live there anymore.” but I want to know…[Read more]

  • Thanks for reading my blog and for the feedback next time ill make sure to use a picture.

  • Thank you for reading my blog and I agree with you about that soon only wealthy people will be able to live here and I think that is not fair.

  • Thanks for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me was “some people don’t know about the cost and they just want to live their because it’s beautiful.” A question I have for you is do you think people come here and then struggle more than they thought they would ?

  • Thank you so much for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me the most was “some people don’t know about the cost and they just want to live their because it’s beautiful.” A question I have for you is do you think that people come here and then struggle a lot more than they thought they would?

  • Thank you so much for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me was “I am impacted by your post, “Rent is causing anger,” because the increase in rent is a big problem in california. It is quite difficult to live in the bay area since that is where it gets quite expensive.” A question I have for you do you know anyone who is…[Read more]

  • Irvin
    I agree with you and the things you had to say and your giving your perspective. I like that and I think it is very important to give your own opinion.

  • Juan commented on the post, Oakland violence 5 months, 1 week ago

    Dear, Brian

    I am amazed by your blog “Oakland Violence” because it talks about real things in Oakland. You also mention real stories for example the one about Mario and that really adds to your blog because its a perspective that like they have first hand experience in the things that go on in Oakland.

    One sentence that you wrote that stands out…[Read more]

  • Dear Ingrid,

    I am excited by your blog “Landlords Increase Rent Prices” because you go into detail and explain what is going on.As well, because you talk about the community and it is a lot of different perspectives that adds to your post.

    One sentence you wrote that stood out to me for me is : “Rent change in prices has been affecting Oakla…[Read more]

  • Oaklands rent has gone up too high over the years and has become less affordable and is getting people evicted from their homes. Also, the rent changes has made people have to get more than one job to be able to

    • Dear Juan,
      I am interested in your blog post “Rent is Causing Anger” because rising rents are indeed a big problem in Berkeley and in the Bay and it’s hard to see when prices will get better. I, like many others, want to be able to stay in the Bay, and with the way things are going, I’m afraid that I won’t be able to afford to live here.
      The chart you included stands out to me because it’s shocking that rents have more than doubled since 2011. I think this is just going to cause the bay to become a much worse place to live. Soon only wealthy people will be able to live here.
      I hope that we can find a way to fix this problem so that it doesn’t end up changing Berkeley and Oakland for the worse in the short or long run. While I don’t have an answer for how to fix things, I do think it should be a priority for both cities.
      Thanks for enlightening people on this issue. I look forward to seeing what you write next.

      • Thank you for reading my blog and I agree with you about that soon only wealthy people will be able to live here and I think that is not fair.

    • I am interested with you post “Rent is causing anger because raising rent is a big deal nowadays especially in the bay area. Some people if they want to go north and will not be able to afford it.
      One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is the chart about average rent for a two bedroom. I think this is amazing because some people don’t know about the cost and they just want to live their because it’s beautiful.
      Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next,because influence a lot of people that want to go to the bay area. They will look back on their choice based on what the average rent of a 2 bedroom and change their decision to just to stay somewhere they can afford it.
      Sebastian Lira

      • Thank you so much for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me the most was “some people don’t know about the cost and they just want to live their because it’s beautiful.” A question I have for you is do you think that people come here and then struggle a lot more than they thought they would?

    • Dear Juan,

      I am impacted by your post, “Rent is causing anger,” because the increase in rent is a big problem in california. It is quite difficult to live in the bay area since that is where it gets quite expensive.

      One piece of information that stood out to me is you chart for the average rent for a 2 bed. I think this is a good piece of information because is shows us the inflation of the rent over the years.

      Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because of your great pieces of evidence. Also on how you chose to format your paper.

      Rigoberto Gonzalez

      • Thank you so much for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me was “I am impacted by your post, “Rent is causing anger,” because the increase in rent is a big problem in california. It is quite difficult to live in the bay area since that is where it gets quite expensive.” A question I have for you do you know anyone who is having a hard time paying rent? Looking forward to hearing back!

    • Thanks for reading my blog. The part of your comment that stood out to me was “some people don’t know about the cost and they just want to live their because it’s beautiful.” A question I have for you is do you think people come here and then struggle more than they thought they would ?

    • Dear Juan,

      Your blog is good and I agree with what you said that people are getting evicted from what they once called “home”. I like the evidence you used to support your claim because it was very convincing. Also, I agree that rent is not affordable because I think that to. Maybe you should of used an image to show the data you wrote. Either way Good Job!

      Sincerely,
      Ingrid

    • Dear Yan, I want to thank you for the positive feedback. I agree with what you said “I think that when people look to the issue of gentrification positively, they tend to focus on “oh look all the increased rent made the neighborhood nicer” and not “the people who made that community unique cannot afford to live there anymore.” but I want to know what are your full thoughts on gentrification?Is gentrification a problem in Riverside?

      Looking forward to your response.

    • Juan, this was a really powerful essay. I had no idea how bad the rent crisis was in Oakland, and I find it interesting as well as heartbreaking. I loved how much evidence you used. It helped bring this crisis to life, especially for a reader who is unfamiliar with it. I found this article on the housing crisis in Oakland: https://www.architecturalrecord.com/articles/13650-the-housing-crisis-in-oakland?v=preview. I’m curious about how it can be fixed, and what needs to be done other than protesting to fix it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and research!

    • You have very good insight regards to rent being so hard to afford right now. In fact not only Oakland is struggling but over all the bay area. It is so sad to see people moving out of the area where they called “home” for several years and I do think it’s not fair. However it’s the society we live in now but hopefully it gets better. I do also agree that it’s not fair how soon after the years past, the wealthy will only be living here. Hopefully they can start building affordable homes for everyone soon!

  • Dear, Ja’kari
    I am amazed by your poem. “Why do people hate?” because it talks about things that are real and I feel a lot of people can relate to.As well some of the metaphors you use like the snake one.One part of your poem that stands out for me is where you talk about other people and like what they say.I think this is interesting because it’…[Read more]

  • Juan wrote a new post, Love 6 months, 3 weeks ago

     

    This poem is about love.Also, the difference between love and materialistic things and what love can do.

     

    Love is everything

    Why want materialistic things?

    Those fast expensive cars won’t visit you if y

    • Juan, I thought this poem was beautiful and gave insight into the true meaning of love. I liked the part about your house not being able to visit you in the hospital. A lot of times we think about all the things we’ve bought or need to buy and forget that people and connection bring true happiness. I especially liked the end where it says, “Materialistic things can be recovered but broken love can’t.” It shows us in the end to be more concerned with love then the things we have. O loved this poem and I hope to see more writing from you.

    • Dear Juan,

      Your poem is sooo good. I love how you showed how love isn’t about the fancy presents or things you might have. It’s about your true feelings towards the person not your feelings towards what the person may have. You also did good on having a flow in your poem and it wasn’t just everywhere your lines connected with each other. I like when you said the materialistic things aren’t going to be there for you or save you by using examples of the hundred dollar bill when you said ¨No matter how many 100 dollar bills you have Benjamin wont come out the bill and hug you if you are in need of one.¨ You really showed how those nice things cannot help you through your rough times. Only a person you truly love or can connect with can get through to you but if your just with someone just because of the things they own it won’t happen. Overall your poem was great you explanations were very good so that I could understand your poem and what you were trying to say.

      Great Job,
      Jadyn

    • I like how you talk about how money and expensive things won’t heal you when you need someone to be by your side. I also like how you add about how money won’t make you happy. You added a lot about love and I like that because I think love is better than money and expensive things. I like how you chose to talk about Love because everyone needs love to be happy and there’s love everywhere and their is not a lot of money and expensive things around.

  • Juan commented on the post, My Shadow Box 8 months, 1 week ago

    Dear Janie, I am excited by your shadow box because I like how everything was organized.As well, how you explain all of it and everything in you box has a meaning to it.Also, the doll I like how it has a big meaning to it and how you explain why you put it their.

    One sentence you wrote that stands out to me is when you said “The photo with me a…[Read more]

  • My Shadow Box

    By:Juan Mendoza Avila

    I have chosen to include the U.S flag because it is one of my counter narratives for when people call me an illegal immigrant.Which,I am not because I have a U.S

    • Dear Juan,
      I like your artist statement a lot because you put in very detail what you have in your box. Also what you said about the color red, I agree that it’s not just a “gang color” it can be more than that. One sentence that you wrote that stood out to me was that people make assumptions just because your Mexican. That your not gonna graduate and that your just gonna drop out of school, but no we as Mexicans want a good life to pass and go to college like you explained. Your artist statement reminds me of something that happened to me. One time my dad had told me to not get red shoes because its gang color, but it’s not just that like you explain. It’s just a normal color. Thank you for writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next, because you have such an amazing perspective and I like the way you think.

    • Dear Juan Mendoza,

      I really like you shadow box because it has a lot of pictures. I also really like the flags you put to represent where you where from. One part of your artwork that stands out to me is the promotion pictures you added. I think is was a great idea to add them because it shows that you were successful in your other schools and that you will continue to do good in school. Another part of your artwork that stood out to me was the color you put on the outside which was red. That stood out to me because people do think that red is related to a gang even if it can be more. Thanks for your shadow box. I look forward to what you make next because I know it will be great.

    • Dear Juan,
      It’s astonishing to hear how people assume so many things about you simply because of your ethnicity. I hope you are able to further pursue your studies and interest in gaming!

  • Dear Velvet,

    I am excited by your ¨Shadow Box¨ because I like the way you organized it.As well, that everything you put in your shadow box has a real meaning to it and I think thats good.One part of your shadow box that stands out to me is that you put a pencil inside your shadow box something so basic but you added a real meaning to it.I think t…[Read more]

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