Thank you for your comment. Helicopter parenting is a term used to describe overwhelming or overbearing parenting behaviors in which parents stifle growth in young people through making all of their decisions for them/shielding them from all kinds of stress. If children or teens continually make unreasonable decisions then it is the…[Read more]
This is a really interesting post and something that I haven’t seen a whole lot of on youthvoices. I have been in the Catholic School system since kindergarten, and I have come across the same dilemmas and uncertainties that you faced. I think what your dad says is right in that you can’t force someone to believe, which is how they…[Read more]
Nice post. I actually wrote a post about the hypebeast culture a little while ago talking about the phenomenon’s effect on streetwear and modern fashion in general. This is something we’ve seen more and more of with the rising impact of social media, more than ever before we can see what other people are wearing. We can buy clothes…[Read more]
There isn’t any magic formula to parenting. There are countless factors going into raising a kid with innumerable decisions that have to be made in trying to decide how to handle your children. One parenting s
After reading your post it left me wondering where my family dynamic and others fits into your research. It’s amazing how much influence parents actions have on children and just how much they absorb. I never knew that not only can behaviors and skills affect development but also they way we react to those behaviors. In the article, https://www.livestrong.com/article/75282-parents-effect-child-behavior/, it discusses the affects of stress and how the way parents react to stress could directly correlate to children’s reactions to stress. I look forward to hearing more.
Dear Writer, as stated in your second paragraph ” “In order for teens to grow up, they need to have the opportunity to experience the freedom of making their own decisions (age appropriate) and the opportunity to learn from mistakes”. How would a parent go about if their young adults keeps making wrong decisions. Also you could’ve explained what the helicopter method of parenting is???but nun the less its a good and strong piece.
Thank you for your comment. Helicopter parenting is a term used to describe overwhelming or overbearing parenting behaviors in which parents stifle growth in young people through making all of their decisions for them/shielding them from all kinds of stress. If children or teens continually make unreasonable decisions then it is the parent’s job to come in and speak rationally with them, so the parent and kid can come to a logical conclusion together. Allowing kids the freedom to understand the significance of their decisions is an indisposable element of their growth.
There is more information on the topic in a few of my other posts –
Dear Edward. Great post, I do believe that Helicopter parents can hurt the Childs growth mentally but we must take into consideration of how this prevents the child from physical harm? Helicopter parents ultimately want to keep there beloved child safe. With respect to the helicopter parents I do believe that there are certain teirs into helicopter parents, the spectrum of extreme to anxious are the 2 ends of the teir system. I suggest this from past personal experiences with “helicopter moms” so i cannot provide any supporting documents. good luck with your research
I believe that you are correct in your stance on parenting young adults. I agree that parents should watch over their teenagers and let them make their own mistakes. I have witnessed the negative effects of bad parenting myself. The kids that haven’t been given the chances to make bad decisions and learn from them seem to be arrogant and lack empathy. I think that this article will help you further your research https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beastly-behavior/201608/yes-overprotective-parenting-harms-kids
I really enjoyed reading this article most times we only hear parenting advice coming from Adults but shouldn’t we be learning how to parent with advice from children as well. I loved the line ” “In order for teens to grow up, they need to have the opportunity to experience the freedom of making their own decisions (age appropriate) and the opportunity to learn from mistakes. When parents place a certain level of trust in their teen, the teen will be more likely to respect the parents as well as their rules.” Parents should be overseeing their children, but as they move into becoming teenagers and becoming adults they need to have experiences that let them learn real lessons for themselves. They have to be allowed to make mistakes and learn from them.” I agree with this line not because I want to be a rebellious teen because I truly believe this is how you should grow up. This is how I was raised and I know 100% any time im faced with a bad situation all I think about is how sad my parents would be because of the trust they hold with me. That is what keeps me from partaking in things I shouldnt do. I don’t know that I would react that same way if my parents were constantly strict with me and had no trust with me.
I really liked reading your post. I agree that the only way for children to grow up into successful young men and women is to let them make their own mistakes and learn from it themselves. My only doubt about this theory is that I believe some children have too much freedom. Many kids can be spoiled and grow up doing anything they want without repercussions. My question is how could you avoid this as a busy parent and little time for your kids?
Thanks you, and I hope to read more of your work soon,
Helicopter parenting is a style of overbearing parenting that can have adverse effects on young people through stifling their course of self growth and independence. A 2018 study on some of the results of
This is a very well written article. I liked how you said that there are a lot more studies to be done and that we can’t fully conclude the effects of helicopter parenting, but that from what we do know helicopter parenting does have negative long-term effects on children. I personally think that my parents sometimes do to much for me, making it hard for me to make my own decisions and become autonomous from my parents. Parents should be a guiding support for their children, not the driving force in the decisions that they make and the things that they do. The best way to learn is from experience, so when parents are making all of the decision for their children they are missing out on that learning experience.
Ed, I believe that you have crafted a very well-written essay on the problem of helicopter parenting that a lot of people do not like to address. Many children nowadays are coddled by their parents to the point where they are unable to function later in life, leading to extremely dire consequences. As a child, my parents helped me out in many activities, but made sure that I wouldn’t build up a major dependence on them later in life. I believe that you summed up this issue quite nicely in your essay with this quote:
“While for some parents it is not easy to let your kids have some freedom, I think that without giving them exposure during their youth and letting them face and handle difficulty they will be brutally unprepared for the problems they encounter after they fly the coop.”
Thank you for sharing this piece with us, and I will post a link to a compelling article I found relating to this topic that I think you would find useful. Thank you.
I really enjoyed reading your post. I agree that although the tactic of helicopter parenting comes from the purest intention of keeping your kid safe but there can be some unseen repercussions. I believe that children who have parents such as these will find themselves trying hard to impress them with unrealistic expectations. The result is mental health issues and low self esteem. Not to mention the incapability of transitioning properly into the adult world due to too much reliance on their parents. If you want to read more about this topic I found this website: http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02732173.2011.574038
Thank you for sharing! Your post was very well written.
great commentary on an aspect of writing that is incredibly important. The best writers use imagery in a way that keeps things interesting and really paints a picture for the reader. Some of the best books are those that you can feel yourself delving into, being sucked in through the writers descriptions of events and scenes. Imagery and…[Read more]
The NCAA has been the center of a lot of controversy in the past few years for their strict enforcement of seemingly unfair regulations. For the amount of money that is made as a result of these athletes the rights they are given are fairly low, there are so many different rules that they have to stay within to keep their scholarships and…[Read more]
really great post. Healthcare is such a major necessity for all people, and it’s something all people should have access to. Healthcare in the states is already so incredibly expensive in the states that for these people to have to overcome these additional difficulties it just makes it so hard to find a way to find a way to make it…[Read more]
Really cool topic. The physics mysteries surrounding the nature of black holes are so interesting. They’re definitely one of the biggest conundrums in space, and have probably gotten their exposure from their portrayal in movies and television like you said. I’d love for us to be able to know more, but it seems silly to hope for any quick…[Read more]
Overprotective parents cause for all kinds of problems in kids, essentially through preventing them from learning how to handle difficult situations on their own, an indispensable skill for all people. Through the
Ed, I found your post very interesting. I also believe that independence issues stem from the concept of helicopter parenting. I believe this type of parenting isolates a person from the real world until they are abruptly pushed into it as they become adults– which can be catastrophic. I read a very fascinating article recently (https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2016/09/how-helicopter-parents-cause-binge-drinking/492722/) about the link that exists between helicopter parenting and binge drinking in college. This article examines the correlation between the two and I think you may find it useful in your further research. This article shows how this constant isolation creates an unbalanced that causes the person to sort of “short circuit” when they reach college and engage in extremely risky behaviors as they are essentially born in to adulthood. I enjoyed reading you article and look forward to seeing where your research takes you.
Edward, I completely agree with your stance on overprotective parenting. I have personally seen the affects of overprotective parenting resulting in their kids lashing out and having a complete and dangerous rebellion. Although this isn’t factual, an interesting idea was brought up in the newest season of Black Mirror on Netflix where a child can have a chip installed in her so that bad things are censored when she sees them. The rest of the episode shows how dangerous this can be. You might find this article by “Psychology Today” to be interesting: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beastly-behavior/201608/yes-overprotective-parenting-harms-kids
Great post Ed! I believe that you are correct in your stance on overprotective parenting. I have witnessed the negative effects of overprotective parenting myself. The kids that have been overprotected seem to be very scared to answer questions or solve problems without the approval of an adult. They also cannot deal with failure very well either. I think that this article will help you further your research: https://www.livestrong.com/article/48744-side-effects-overprotective-parenting/
Keep up the good work!
Interesting write up, although these surveys do seem discouraging, the materialistic nature of the U.S. is not soon to change. The fate of the environment lies in the hands of every citizen and their efforts to cut back and raise awareness. Despite the number of people who couldn’t seem to have any concern, there are people who deeply…[Read more]
Really nice write up. This is an issue that is overlooked quite often, but is highly capable of leaving lasting effects on kids who get caught up in the foster care system. The quotes from others work really well to drive your point home. This is a hard problem to dissolve because of the scale and the lack of attention, however…[Read more]
Basically, there isn’t a whole lot of reasoning behind the ages put into place in America allowing certain privileges and taking away others. The legal age of adulthood is 18, yet the drinking age is 21, and you c
Ed, I find that your analysis of age limits for certain things such as voting, drinking, and being eligible for things such as war very compelling, as not many people consider why these ages were set in the first place. I am very interested to hear more about this subject because I often wonder why someone can give their life for their own country before being legally allowed to rent a car. I found a website that addresses this exact topic and will post it below. I look forward to seeing more about this in the future.
Edweird, I find your argument very compelling. There is no understanding by what the actual age of becoming an adult is, our government gives us an age but we can not even really do anything at that age of 18. I am interested to know why we can be tried as an adult in court, join the military, and do many other things once people turn the age of 18, although we are unable to drink, and in some states it is illegal to smoke. I have found you an article that I believe can help you find what you are looking for in your argument. http://www.indiana.edu/~engs/articles/cqoped.html
I found you article very intriguing, this is because I never knew that you have to be 25 to rent a car. Yet, you can buy a car at any certain age. How is this possible? Being considered an adult at 18 isn’t really appropriate because some of those 18 year olds are out there partying being a teen. I’d say that a person should consider themselves an adult when they actually have their life together and actually know where there going in life. Good article sir
I really liked this article. I thought you were asking very good questions, and I think it is especially important to us as we get older and prepare to step into adult hood. I think that the age of adulthood can vary, and the laws around it aren’t incredibly clear. This https://www.thespruce.com/happy-18th-birthday-new-adult-3570791 is something I found interesting and I think you would like it.
I found this post really intersting and I agree with you on the points present. As I have approached my ‘adult years’ I have noticed that I am still treated like a child. While I am 18, I have found that myself (along with others) remain sheltered in our home lives and school lives. I find the age limits in the United States particularly confsuing. We can live on our own and fight for our country at 18 but can’t legally buy a drink. From the perspective of a young adult, the laws and restrictions present are beyond limiting to the young person. While we have certain freedoms, we still remain restricted in our ‘youth’. This whole concept is rather mind boggling to me, because I feel underprepared and misunderstood as a millennial, but so much is still expected of me. https://www.thenation.com/article/democrats-18-year-olds-can-fight-not-drink/
Ed, this is a really interesting topic, and one that is relevant to a lot of people. Although I’m 18, which is the legal age of adulthood in the US, I find that in most ways, life hasn’t actually changed a whole lot. The system in America definitely doesn’t make sense to me. For example, why are you mature enough to drive a car at 16 but not enough to sign papers yourself? Or when you’re 18, why are you considered a legal adult and mature enough to vote and be drafted, but you still aren’t mature enough to buy a drink? Or in a lot of states, why can you smoke at age 20 but not drink? I look forward to hearing more from you about this in the future. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/01/when-are-you-really-an-adult/422487/
Dear Ed, as I read your post I started to think about my life as a “child”. I am not 18 years old yet but I still feel like I have the same responsibilities as an adult. I feel like the whole legal age thing puts a lot of pressure and restrictions on those who are under age. At the end of the day we all worry about the same issues and we all matter.
Hey there Ed, I really think that your question on legal age is interesting and has potential to spark large debates among those who support how it is now and those who do not. It is crazy to think about the amount of things people are able to do just because they turn a certain age while not even having fully developed their intelligence. It is all a matter of speculation of what should be done and how the society views people as an “adult”. The question you left the reader with is great because it causes us to wonder about how we feel about the legal age as of right now. I found an article that may be interesting in your topic.
I think this debate has been a point of interest throughout our nation’s history. To me, 18 seems like a young age to have all the responsibilities as an adult. On the other hand however, it makes sense. By that time, most kids are off to college and need to gain the independence that turning 18 entails. Despite being a legal adult, 18 year olds are often not viewed as adults. Also, when 18 you’d think that you get the same rights as every other adult. However, this is not sure due to the age restrictions on other laws. This is a very compelling argument.
Ed, I found your post very interesting and provocative. I, for one, have never even considered why the age requirement for legal adulthood is 18, why drinking is legal at 21, and why renting a car is not considered legal until 25. It seems a common theme that with more life comes more mental experience and further physical development. 18 almost seems too young for legal adulthood, because although the individual is not yet physically and mentally developed, their parents have the right to completely cease giving them support. I found an article that details the pros and cons of the legal age of alcohol consumption being 21 in the United States, which I thought proposed interesting arguments as to why there should be two completely separate ages and why 18, being the legal age of adulthood, should be the legal age of alcohol consumption as well.
I appreciate you for choosing such a great topic for many arguments. In my opinion adulthood is not an age but a mindset. I believe you do not become an adult when you turn 18 but you turn into an adult when you start acting like one. An example would be it doesn’t matter if you’re old enough to drive because what really matters is knowing how to.
Adelle, Nice post. Adoption is always interesting to hear about. I have a younger brother adopted from Kazakhstan who was adopted before Americans were restricted from adopting children in Kazakhstan. It definitely isn’t an easy process, and it is far more expensive than it seems like it should be. Adopting a child is an incredibly selfless act,…[Read more]
Nice write up Ethan. This is an issue that seems to come up yearly ass college athletes are punished for not abiding to the NCAA’s strict set of rules. It seems crazy that for all the work they put in it can all be taken away so quickly. Whether or not college athletes should be able to be paid is a tricky subject, but it doesn’t seem right to…[Read more]
Globally animal mistreatment is prevalent and overlooked, especially in the farming industry. Factory farms designed to draw maximum output from animals put farm animals through unmistakably horrible treatments
Good Job Ed! I liked how you linked multiple sources in your post. You did a really good job at describing the problem and telling the reader how they can help solve it. I look forward to seeing more posts like this in the future.
Dear Ed, I am shocked by your post, “Do You Really Know Where Your Food Comes From?” because Factory Farms are unfair to the animals. i’ve heard about Factory Farms, but i didn’t know it was this bad.
One sentence you wrote that stands out for me is: “Animals are put through these conditions all in the name of profit for factory owners seeking the highest possible profits with little to no regard for the wellbeing of their animals.” I think this is horrifying because the people who own the “farms” are cruel and have no humanity. On the other hand, I wonder what is my role in this cruelty as someone who eats meat.
Another sentence that stood out is: According to the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty for Animals, “94% of Americans would agree that animals raised for food deserve to live free from abuse and cruelty. Yet the majority of the nearly 10 billion farm animals raised each year in the U.S. suffer in conditions that consumers would not accept if they could see them.” I like this quote because if we don’t treat animals respectfully through small farms that value life, it won’t last because of the bad quality and people want good quality food. I believe people want their money to be worth what they are paying for: to be good for their health and that their money doesn’t support cruelty.
Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next because this post sends a message about seeing whats really happening to animals being abuse.
Nice post. This is a persisting issue with no clear solution, but you make strong points. It will always be difficult to understand what someone else really goes through, but many Americans are unknowingly in similar situations to their fellow citizens. This is a country that was founded on the binding of cultures under a common roof,…[Read more]
Nice post. This is a highly pressing issue that everyone should be aware of and acting on. Net Neutrality defends our ability to spread our own ideas and view others’. By allowing internet service providers to prioritize and bottleneck information we’re giving free reign to these companies for the pushing of desired information as well…[Read more]
In today’s impressionable world, media is more spread and more accessible than it ever has been. This has strong potential to produce different forms of a hive mentality whether it be politically, religiously, o
Ed, nice post! I enjoyed how you presented the information and discussed the psychological effects media has on us. I feel that there are many benefits and downfalls of social media and it seems that you have highlighted some of these too. I think you could expand on this post and elaborate on the psychological effects that media has on the brain. This can be found on http://www.cnn.com/2016/07/12/health/social-media-brain/index.html that elaborates on how the teen brain responds to certain things on social media and the overall effect it has on development.
Really interesting post. I would agree with all of the points that you made, however this issue is a complicated one to tackle due to the systems we already have in place throughout the country. It would be difficult to adopt a knew schooling/student evaluating system nationwide that would work as well as the one we have now, even…[Read more]
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