I often find myself contemplating on my life and what it means to be happy. So often times I wonder, will I be satisfied with how I lived my life when I leave this Earth. Our time on this Earth is limited, we should be spending time with the people that matter most to us. I believe being happy is a choice, not a response. Because in the end, we can choose how we behave and react to situations.
Being happy with your life boils down to being content with what you have. Our society focuses heavily on self-improvement, whether it be beauty products, dieting, working out. While sometimes this is good, more often than not it makes us discontent with our lives and ungrateful for the things that we have. I read an article on happiness and satisfaction of life. The author of the article states, “So I’ve come to the conclusion — and it’s proven true time and again — that it’s not the conditions that make me unhappy, but my choice of thoughts, of attitude, of behavior.”(ZenHabits, 2016) I think that this way of thinking about life is very powerful. Our perception of our world and the blessings that we have can have a huge impact on our happiness and contentment with life.
Another important way to be happy with our lives is to build and strengthen relationships with other people. Studies have shown that having many close friends can increase overall satisfaction in life by almost 20%. Richberg stated in his research, “Having more close friendships was associated with a 19 percent greater life satisfaction and a 23 percent greater sense of optimism.” (Richburg, 1998) Humans are social beings, so it makes sense that the more social a person is, the happier they will be.
In conclusion, we may have more control over our own happiness than we may expect. The next time we are in a slump or feel like we are losing control of our lives, it may help to take a step back. We take too many things for granted, especially our family and close friends. We need to learn to appreciate the relationships that we have and those who care for us. Not only will it make our friends and family feel appreciated, in return it will help us become happier people.
- ZenHabits, Leo Babauta, https://zenhabits.net/the-incredible-power-of-contentment/
- Time, How to be more satisfiedwith your life, http://time.com/25208/how-to-be-more-satisfied-with-your-life-5-steps-proven-by-research/