Dear Youth Voices Community,
Hey, Youth Voices my name is Surako Follings I am a 17-year-old senior at Fremont high school located in Oakland California .
The social inequity problem I am looking into is Abusive Relationships. The demographic group I am most focused on for this inequity is Men and Woman. Abusive Relationship because I want to know more about how someone is being abused and how it is caused. The reason I feel this is an inequity is because a lot of people are not aware of what group of people is being abused so much.
Right now, I do not have a solution to this problem I am still searching for a possible solution.
Some might argue that abusive relationships do not matter because if a girl hits a guy then it’s okay or vice versa, which is backwards, making my research focus debatable.
Fremont High School seniors are now curating sources to explain our inequity and its impact on society and to develop arguments for why and how this inequity needs to be addressed. If you have ideas for sources I should explore, please send me those ideas or links in the comment section. I would greatly appreciate your feedback and help.
Sincerely,
Surako Follings
Fremont High School
Dear Surako
For one to be helped or seek for help they most know the the problem, meaning you can not help any one from an abusive relationship until they want you to do so. Many people hide their feelings because of “love” and that makes it hard for individuals like you and I to just interfere in their relationship.
No one deserve to suffer for love or put their lives at risk for love, and for that reason we all have an important role in this issues. An abusive relationships start with an abusing, controlling manner. Any sign of violence whether is control, humiliation, yelling or any other thing that makes you feel inferior to a parterre is an indication of abuse.
Please read this article to further your search https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm
Surako,
Abusive relationships, both physical and verbal, have been a problem for all cultures throughout history. You said you were looking into brainstorming a solution to the problem, which is really important research. The best place to start is to look into the root causes of these toxic relationships and the results of the abuse on the victim, and even the perpetrator. http://www.ugr.es/~prodopsi/sitioarchivos/Archivos/Walker%201999.pdf
I would give this article a look! It could help with your research. I hope to see more on this soon
Hi Surako, what an important topic! When you’re talking about the effect of abusive relationships are you talking about the effects on the victim, the effects on society or the effects on the abuser? Abusive relationships effect the victim both physically and mentally. I have found a few articles that go over the effects of abuse, https://thinkprogress.org/the-hidden-consequences-of-domestic-violence-linger-for-decades-c943c468a992/, https://au.reachout.com/articles/domestic-violence-and-what-you-can-do-about-it, http://www.joyfulheartfoundation.org/learn/domestic-violence/effects-domestic-violence. Also, I found a few sources as to how to help with abusive relationships, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-firestone/domestic-violence-awareness_b_2000652.html , https://www.domesticshelters.org/domestic-violence-articles-information/10-ways-you-can-help-prevent-domestic-violence-where-you-live#.WdFlstOGOqA. I hope this helps you!
I think that it is great that you are doing a project on this, because it is something really important to talk about. It looks like you are looking more at dating and abusive relationships than abusive relationships in families between parents and children. I think one really good thing you could look into would be the differences between a physically abusive relationship, an emotionally abusive relationship, and a healthy relationship. Physically and emotionally abusive relationships are super dangerous because they are hard to escape safely. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/presence-mind/201510/how-help-someone-in-abusive-relationship Is a great site to go to to look into ways to help and find out more.
I think your research topic is something that is an important issue. What age demographic are you looking into researching? because your research could go several different ways based on ages you choose from. You could also look into different kinds of abuse. there is physical and emotional abuse and both are very harmful. This is an interesting article I found https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/ which tells about signs you are in an abusive relationship which may give you some insight. I think this could be really interesting If you focused on a specific age group and talked about different kinds of abuse.
Surako,
I think that your interest for this research is important. I think that you can go a long way in describing abuse from different standpoints whether it may be from the man or from the woman. I also would love to see some research done on verbal abuse among family or couples. I feel that verbal abuse does not get mentioned as much as many other abuses and would be a great addition to your research. Verbal abuse is a terrible thing to experience of which I hope no one endures. I have done some research on verbal abuse myself and this link provides more information on verbal abuse: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2007/04/verbal-beatings-hurt-as-much-as-sexual-abuse/. This is another link as well that focuses more on verbal abuse as well. https://www.fsu.edu/news/2006/05/22/invisible.scars/. When it comes to relationship abuse too, it is important to know some of the signs of abuse that occurs. This link will give some insight these signs: https://www.fsu.edu/news/2006/05/22/invisible.scars/. Finally I would like to add on a final link so that you may have a wider range of sources for your research, https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm. One question that I might have is do you think it would be best to include sexual abuse? I hope that your research goes well and that you may bring more awareness to abuse among relationships and family life. I applaud you for taking such a strong interest in this subject field and look forward to reading your next post.
-Thomas
Hey Surako,
I think this: http://ncadv.org/learn-more/statistics should be a good link to help with your research. I hope to see what you write about this topic soon!
Andrew