Trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, and ability of a person or thing. “Trust lies at the core of all our relationships and it is the currency of influence,” Margie Warrell says, a writer for Forbes. According to Warrell there are three domains of trust: competence, sincerity, and reliability. Competence is asking yourself if one is deserving of your trust because of their skills, experience, knowledge, and proper resources to perform a task. Reliability is the ability to depend on someone to follow through on their word of completing a task on time. Lastly, sincerity is based on a judgement of character and fundamental integrity; it is asking yourself if that person will do the right thing, even if it comes at an expense. The reason we trust is because of our experiences, who we are as individuals, and how we learned to treat people we have met previously. We learn how to trust by our positive and negative experiences of betrayal and loyalty, and those experiences reshaped our specific expectations for trusting others. Because of that, we are always either bent towards or away from trust in differing situations. Judith Sills, an irrational expertise for Psychology Today, explains that “trust — whether in a person or a product — is more than a compilation of information and experience. It is that data squeezed through some individual emotional filter, invisible to the eye yet active in every encounter.” As teenagers, we are still in the deep midst of discovering how to trust. Every experience with every person we encounter develops our expectations for trusting others. We make grave trusting mistakes which teach us how to better trust other people in our future, like our future bosses, future friends, and future soul mate(s). The reason we trust so easy in our life is because it takes a lot of work for us to truly not trust an individual, and then act on that lack of trust. And the reason we do not trust demonstrably untrustworthy people comes from our default tendency to do so.
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