Having a twin changes a family’s whole dynamic, and in many cases it changes the dynamic of the two individuals. I wanted to see what ways having a twin changes a person’s personality, and why. I myself have a twin, and I can see some ways that we are different because of it, but I wanted to look more in depth to see what others say.
The first thing I found was that children who grow up with twins tend to be less independent. This is because they are used to having a twin around all the time that they can depend on. An article I found says, “Twins are more likely to depend on each other for support and daily tasks due to always having each other around.” One of the main ways twins depend on one another is socially. They grow used to always having a friend with them every where they go, and in some cases it can cause them to grow up to be more introverted people.
In other cases, twins learn to create deep and healthy relationships with others. From learning to grow with another person all of their lives, they are more resilient to being around people, and they don’t grow sick of friends as easily. Having a twin is practice for maintaining other relationships in the future. Because of this, twins search for deep emotional closeness in relationships and friendships because it is what they are used to. They often get disappointed by other friendships because they never lead to the same closeness that was found in the twin relationship.
Another thing I found was that each twin usually takes on the role of the first child or the baby of the family. “A twin will never act like a middle-born; he will always act like a firstborn or a baby,” Leman says. Looking at this, I can see that I definitely took on the role of the youngest, while my sister took on the role of the first born. We can determine who took on which role by observing the way the family works, the amount and the type of attention that each sibling each gets from the rest of their family, and the paths that each twin takes. For example, my sister left earlier for college than most students do, and this may have something to do with the roles we took on as twins in our family. I can see that neither my twin nor I acted like a middle child, and this is normal. She acted this the first born and I acted like the last born as we were growing up. Even though these positions are more chosen than in most families, once twins are in their spots, it can be almost impossible to get out.
Therefore, twins personalities are changed for multiple reasons. They tend to be more dependent on others, especially peers. Twins can either be more social or less social (depending on how their relationship was) from having a twin. Twins look for closeness in their other relationships. Twins may develop in a similar way to first born children or the youngest of the family, and these roles have the power to be just as impactful as they would be if they were actually the oldest or youngest.