Wash your clothes in this kind of way; wash them every saturday morning or afternoon;if they are white pour a cup of clorox in the washing machine for them;this is how they are meant to look; white and crisp; if they are colored remember to separate them in piles; jeans in one pile;pants in another pile, the underwears apart and also your bras; remember to clean after yourself;no husband would want a woman who doesn’t keep any room tidy; when buying a shirt try to find a nice blouse, be sure to not be tight on you or men will see your curves neither plan to buy crop tops that is not the image you want people to have of you and no letters on it or images be professional; because that way you will be the good girl in the other eyes of others and me;make sure to tie up your hair when cooking; do you think it is alright to find hair in your food?;always eat your food in such a way that it won’t turn someone else’s stomach;  don’t be too outgoing in school;you mustn’t talk or flirt to any boys, not even to give directions; don’t try to be depressed—you are to be happy and have a smile at all times; but I don’t always know how to control my emotions;this is how to wear your traditional clothing;this is how to wrap on your girdle not too loose because we don’t want it falling down in any moment and not too tight either since you need to be able to breathe; this is how to adjust your wipil and corte to look like you are ready for the event not like someone who rushed;you are trying to impress others by the amazing daughter I have;this is how you fold your stepfather’s clothes so he has a recognition of the type of woman you are to be by understanding me; this is how you grow corn—in a good soil, because corn in a good soil is going to give the best corn; when you are growing cilantro,make sure it gets plenty of water or else it will dry fast and not grow with the hard sunshine; this is how you sweep a corner; this is how you sweep a whole house; this is how you sweep a yard; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like too much; this is how you smile to someone you don’t like at all; this is how you smile to someone you like completely; this is how you make coffee; this is how you make arroz con leche; this is how you make enough coffee for dinner with an important guest; this is how you set a table for lunch; this is how you set a table for breakfast; this is how to behave in the presence of men who don’t know you very well, and this way they won’t recognize immediately the slut I have warned you against becoming; be sure to wash yourself and hair every day, even if it’s in cold water; don’t flex—you are not a boy, you know; don’t cut your hair even if there is split ends—you might even regret it; don’t assume things, because it might not be what you think is; this is how to use shoes for the occasion; this is how to mend your sore feet; this is how to not joke around; this is how to make a good medicine for a cold; this is how to avoid having a bad choice before it even becomes a regret; this is how to party in a polite way; this is how to work hard, and that way you will be recognized by your hard work; this is how to avoid boyfriends; this is how a man bullies you; this is how to love a man, and if this doesn’t work there are other ways, and if they don’t work don’t feel too bad about giving up; this is how to not use skirts, and this is how to pick your self one only one person from our country so that you will understand him and live with him ofr the reas of your life; this is how to make ends meet; always remember to take someone with you when going out; but what if I want to have free time alone?; you mean to say that after all you are really going to be the kind of woman who will discourage the family who won’t get married for a bad reputation for the woman you want to be?

This is my personal literary selfie which has the same kind of writing of Jamaica Kincaid’s poem Girl and saying what there is to be expected from a girl or in this case what I have heard said to me. The original “Girl” poem by Jamaica is in the link: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/1978/06/26/girl

1 Comment
  1. Melissa 3 years ago

    I loved the part where you talked about how to grow. “This” is the soil and climate and sunshine that you grow in. I love this connection that you have made and I like how you are able to mention the more subtle expectations set for you without sounding like you’re just complaining about life. I do think that not all expectations and precedents set have to be negative; I think it would improve your essay to bring in the more positive aspect that come along with the bad ones. over all a great essay!

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