I believe that people can control and create their own happiness. Throughout this past school year, I have been through a great deal from dealing with sickness, stress, and being a typical teenager trying to grow up. One of the many phrases people have said to me to help get me where I need to be is, “only control what you can control”. At first, I thought this would be impossible to do because I like to be in control of everything. I realized that if I wanted to be content in life, feel at peace, and just be happy, I would have to let go of things I was trying to control, but could never actually get control of. I now use this phrase in my everyday life to eliminate thoughts that cause me to feel overwhelmed and unhappy. I believe controlling and creating your happiness is possible and is an everyday mental battle.
Even from a very young age, which you might not be aware of, you experience happiness. As you grow from a baby to a toddler, your happiness comes from receiving what you want. As you grow older, this is not the case. It’s not possible to feel true happiness through all your wants. You might think you are truly happy in the moment, with all your possessions, but you will never be fulfilled. Things will happen to people that they won’t expect. It might cause them to go down a path that they didn’t necessarily want but can bring them happiness or can cause depression, anxiety, or stress. This is where you can apply the statement “only control what you can control”. Because you can’t control the path you’re on, but you can control how you handle things, you can choose to make the best of things and be happy.
Some ways you can control your happiness is by doing things to help your mind and body stay healthy. For example, eating healthy, regularly exercising, and socializing with others are helpful. Your social life is something you can control because the people you surround yourself with is a factor that can control the things you do and the environments you are exposed to. These are all factors that can affect your happiness and you have control over these. Stress is one of the biggest factors that can make controlling your happiness harder, with the heavy workload of high school, college preparation, sports, and work for some. It is very exhausting and you may not be able to handle all of it. You will have to make choices to manage your time and happiness.
Happiness is controllable and each person can determine how much they experience. It is all based on choices you make in your life. It is a mental battle and a large part is making the choice to be happy.
Happiness is a Choice by Kait is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.