Posted by Jordan on April 25, 2017
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Controlling Happiness

I firmly believe that everyone has control of their own happiness.  There are several different things that can bring joy to a person including connections with others, appreciation of the little things, comedy, and a variety of activities.  Of course, there are uncontrollable situations that everyone has to deal with, that brings everyone down.  But there is always a choice to let the uncomfortable situations get to you.  If one chooses to focus and dwell over what is making them unhappy, then, in turn, they’ll be unhappy!  The alternative is to focus on the positive things in life.  And that’s what I’m choosing to focus on, or at least trying to.  It’s not an easy task, but it’s certainly worth trying.

People always have the choice to focus on positive things.  It is common knowledge that human interaction and comedy, among several other things, can actually increase happiness, but a lot of people avoid these things anyway.  So many people would rather go on their phones than talk to someone else, or purposefully be angry with a situation instead of laughing it off.  By simply making the choice to do things that make you happy, or laughing a little bit more every day, anyone could be happier!

Not only is there a choice to focus on the good, but there is also a choice to forget the bad.  My whole life, I’ve always gotten caught up on the minor things.  Like, one time I had a soccer game, and the particular team I was playing with had a dress code, so everything down to the socks had to be the same.  Well, on the day of a game I couldn’t find my socks, and I just completely lost it.  I thought that these socks were the most important thing in the world, and at that moment I felt as though I had committed a crime!  I spent the rest of the week completely down in the dumps because I wasn’t wearing the correct socks for one game.  If I had taken some time to realize the actual severity of the situation, I wouldn’t have been so upset.  The dumb moment with my socks had already passed, but I continued to worry.  I made the unfortunate decision to give so much power to that insignificant event.

Simply forgetting the bad definitely might be harder for some people, but it’s never impossible.    There are some people who can simply forget anything that upsets them.  And to some extent, that’s what everyone should be striving for.  There are so many small, meaningless things that everyone gets sad about, and it’s all for absolutely no reason!  

Of course, it’s never easy to let something go in the moment, but by taking a few moments out of your day to put some things in perspective, you have a better chance at happiness. Put yourself into positive environments, and forget your insignificant mistakes, and just be happy.