Research shows that being separated from their birth mother has an enormous effect on the child’s unconscious psyche. Even if the child is immediately placed within a loving family, there is still trauma from the severing of the in utero bond. A child does not have a sense of self at birth, their sense of self is contained within their Mother. As a result, desperation of the two can leave the child feeling as if they’ve lost themselves as they have lost their mother. Adoptees also have separation anxiety. This manifests itself in an inability to trust others and a difficulty establishing healthy long term relationships.