“Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender…Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels” (The Hotline). So why does the society around Oakland ignore the fact that domestic violence is happening today? Why isn’t domestic violence brought to attention or discussed in a family? By reading the novel, Leaving by Richard Dry, domestic violence got passed down in families because there isn’t anything breaking the cycle of pain and trauma. This story deeply impacted me because this cycle is occurring in my community. In order to contribute to the solution, I want to write this blog to break the silence and empower survivors. In many ways, society rarely talks about domestic violence because this issue is taboo and individuals are taught that domestic violence should only be spoken about within their family.

Our society doesn’t talk about domestic violence because this issue is taboo. Carlos Hernandez, a teacher at Life Academy High School, was interviewed because he has grown up in Oakland which gives him a unique perspective on domestic violence around Oakland. He replied, “Seen as taboo or something that’s not talked about… and that’s not how it should be.”(Hernandez). Hernandez used those words to show how our society creates an environment where individuals rarely talk about domestic violence because individuals don’t know how significant and substandard the issue is. Not being vocal about domestic violence causes the problem to go overlooked. Also, stated by Abraham Huerta, a student at Life Academy that grew up around domestic violence, remarked, “Since it’s such a big issue that flies under the radar, I believe there has to be more attention brought to it so it’s no longer a problem.”(Huerta). This accentuates that domestic violence isn’t seen as a crucial problem to get the attention of the society. Our society doesn’t talk about domestic violence because the issue isn’t brought up in schools to educate children with. When attention is brought on the issue, the silence that victims face will be broken because that’s when they will feel safe enough to speak up. To make sure the issue is on the radar, schools should start teaching about that issue so that victims can learn that it isn’t ok.

Furthermore, the society doesn’t talk about domestic violence because most individuals don’t know who to talk to or where to get help, therefore, breaking the silence with allies or education would help victims. Many families, or children, that are victims of domestic are taught to not speak of what they experienced and either no one would listen or they don’t know how to resolve the issue because they would also feel ashamed for speaking up about being abused. For example, a witness of domestic violence explained, “Like it’s really challenging for a family that’s been raised a certain way and is used to seeing domestic violence and they don’t really understand how to navigate or how to even go about it because they don’t know how or because of lack of information.”(Hernandez). The keywords in this quote are “raised a certain way”, “don’t really understand”, and “lack of information” because they describe how a victim might feel. Being abused disempowers and degrades a person’s sense of agency and power. This personality tells readers that there are victims out there that need help but don’t know where to get it. If our society wants to spread awareness or to try to stop domestic violence, there needs to be a place where those individuals can talk about it. Therefore to help individuals speak up, they need to find allies or read fiction, Leaving, to learn that it isn’t ok to contribute to the silence. Additionally, in an online article, “Even Though Domestic Violence Is Incredibly Widespread, Most Americans Don’t Talk About It” by Tara Culp-Ressler, she explains, “And when survivors of these crimes try to initiate those conversations, they’re not always well-received. Fifty-eight percent of the victims who told someone about their experience with sexual or domestic violence said that no one made an attempt to help them.”(Culp-Ressler). Even in situations where these victims actually feel safe enough to open up, they don’t even get the help they need. The victims that have been vocal about the issue don’t talk about domestic violence because they are not listened to. If an individual isn’t going to get the help they need when they speak up, there isn’t a chance they will continue to speak up. Preferably, for those victims, the city of Oakland, or any other place, can establish workshops in schools to educate children on what domestic violence is. Maybe then adolescents can educate themselves and know how to help themselves or others.

Some may argue that the society does talk about domestic violence because of the high number of people who face domestic violence. In the article, “Domestic violence: the issue explained” by Sandra Horley, she addressed, “Domestic violence is a complex issue which affects every one of us. With one woman in four physically abused by her partner at some point in her life, the likelihood is we all know someone who lives with the terrifying threat of abuse.”(Horley). This suggests that domestic violence is common because of the likelihood that we know someone who has been a victim of domestic violence. However, even though we know someone who’s been a victim, we aren’t being vocal and liberating that person from domestic violence because most victims aren’t educated about domestic violence.

Our society rarely talks about domestic violence because this issue is taboo and individuals are taught that domestic violence should not be spoken in public or they are afraid to speak up. To make sure domestic violence doesn’t silence the survivors, schools should teach about domestic violence, so that there isn’t lacking information when survivors feel trapped.

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9 Comments
  1. Jennifer 9 months ago

    Hi Kristy,

    I really enjoyed reading your post regarding the topic of domestic violence. Your title also drew my attention as well. I really like your beginning quote “Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.” It reminds people that domestic violence can occur to anyone regardless of social status. Also, I agree that domestic violence is an issue that need to be brought up more so people can know of these situations and step up to help.
    I also like how you include many details in the post including several interviews with direct quotes from the people that were interviewed. It reminds the readers again that domestic violence is an issue that is rarely brought up.
    It’s important for people to bring awareness to domestic violence so that victims can feel the power and feel safe to step up and tell others their situations. I also agree that schools should also educate students about domestic violence so that they are aware of these situations and can help others that are going through it and empower them.
    You did a great job on your post! It was very detailed and full of passion of wanting to help bring awareness to this issue! Thanks for your post!

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      Kristy 8 months ago

      Dear Jennifer,

      I am so content about how my blog drew your attention and how I brought awareness towards this issue. I’m shocked that out of all blogs, mine was chosen. Your comment stood out to me because of how we agree on the same things like how schools should educate us, or even future students, about domestic violence so that we can be aware in this type of situation. I would never post anything that I wasn’t passionate about so thank you for reading and commenting and I hope you brought this issue up to your other classmates because that was the intention of this blog. Thank you for reading!

  2. Magali 9 months ago

    Hi, Kristy!!! Your post is very detailed and organized. I do agree that domestic violence is an issue that needs awareness, in our society. In addition, it is important for victims to have a voice in our society, to receive the support that they need. A sentence that caught my attention from reading your post is “when attention is brought on the issue, the silence that victims face will be broken because that’s when they will feel safe enough to speak up”. This quote stood out to me because when this issue receives attention, the victims will feel comfortable to speak up for themselves and it will become easier for them to express their emotions and feelings. I also think it’s important for schools to educate children and teenagers about domestic violence, so they can become aware of the issue and to learn about preventing it from happening.

    Thank you for writing about this topic. I look forward to read your other posts.

  3. mitchell 9 months ago

    Kristy. I really like how you write it seems very professional. I also really like the topic you have chosen to write about and how society turns its back on it and makes it “taboo” like you said. What you wrote is very interesting and how you write about makes it interesting. I am sure that people who are going through this will agree with what you are saying and I believe that what you are saying will speak to them on deep levels. What you wrote has inspired me to take action and to do my own research. I am sure that what you have written will inspire others to do the same.

  4. Aryanna Lawrence Riggin 9 months ago

    Dear Kristy,

    I am moved by your post “The Unspoken Truth about Domestic Violence” because it was extremely powerful and I agree, society should speak up and be aware of where there is help. We, as a society, aren’t at all perfect and do need a lot of work but I believe this is one way we can help change our communities for the better.

    One sentence you included that really caught my eye was when you wrote, “For example, a witness of domestic violence explained, “Like it’s really challenging for a family that’s been raised a certain way and is used to seeing domestic violence and they don’t really understand how to navigate or how to even go about it because they don’t know how or because of lack of information.”(Hernandez).” I think this quote was really compelling because it gives readers a sense of realization like “Oh this is really happening,” It makes people aware discusses the problem and makes the audience think.

    Another sentence I noticed was: “If an individual isn’t going to get the help they need when they speak up, there isn’t a chance they will continue to speak up. Preferably, for those victims, the city of Oakland, or any other place, can establish workshops in schools to educate children on what domestic violence is. Maybe then adolescents can educate themselves and know how to help themselves or others.” This stood out for me because I can feel the sincerity of wanting to help those people. It explains a problem thoroughly and gives a solution that can work.

    I do agree with you that victims or witnesses need to speak up to be heard. One reason I say this is because if one person speaks up it can create a domino effect and encourage others to believe they are not alone.

    Thanks for your writing. I look forward to seeing what you write next because I can tell you really thought this out. Your opinion was strong and you supported your claim nicely.

    Best,

    Aryanna L-R

  5. Maria 9 months ago

    I agrre with what you wrote. It is very powerful.

    • Veronica 9 months ago

      Hello Kristy,

      I just wanted to say that you did a really good job on capturing the idea that domestic violence is often treated as a private matter. As you have illuded to, it should be treated as a more publized matter. Morover, I also believe that people should educated about what domestic violence is. I also read that you wanted to be more involved with this population, so the YWCA might be something that you might be interested down the line. The YWCA helps both men and women who have been affected by domestic violence and there usually taking in volunteers.

      Overall, it was great read and keep up the good work.

  6. Arjen 9 months ago

    I didn’t read your work but it’s absolutely good. PLZ accept my friend request

    • Veronica 9 months ago

      Hello Kristy,

      I just wanted to say that you did a really good job on capturing the idea that domestic violence is often treated as a private matter. As you have illuded to, it should be treated as a more publized matter. Morover, I also believe that people should educated about what domestic violence is. I also read that you wanted to be more involved with this population, so the YWCA might be something that you might be interested down the line. The YWCA helps both men and women who have been affected by domestic violence and there usually taking in volunteers.

      Overall, it was great read and keep up the good work.

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